Quote Of The Week – 16 – 2017
Most Overlooked Reason Why You Fail To Be Successful In Life
“The speed of your success is limited only by your dedication and what you’re willing to sacrifice.”
― Nathan W. Morris
Have you ever asked yourself why it is so hard to be successful when you start out something new?
There are a lot of tips and lists available which give you all kinds of valuable information on how to be successful such as:
- Create a morning routine to get a perfect start in the day
- Set your top priorities and work on them first
- Reprogram your subconscious mind
This list is by far not complete and you could dive much deeper into each point if you would like to.
But there is one major aspect missing that is not in this list or in any other one I have read so far.
Some of the points are the result of it whereas others may get you there if you truly follow along.
Such an approach, however, might take quite long and hold a big surprise for you in the end.
Knowing this little secret right from the start and accepting that you cannot avoid it will actually speed up the entire process.
Otherwise, you might actually subconsciously resist to it and even get convinced by your family and friends that you are on the wrong path and should stop what you are doing.
Giving up because of others is even more painful and gives you just another opportunity to be a victim of the circumstances and continue as usual with supposedly having no control over your own life.
Eventually, one or many of the following things may happen, you:
In order to be successful in life, you need to learn to let go of the past and unlearn anything that is no longer serving you.
Most overlooked reason why you fail to be successful in life
In order to achieve something you never did before, you not only need to act differently than before.
There is something much more important:
You need to become someone else!
The same you that has created your current life situation cannot create a new life situation for you.
With you, I mean your conditioned self.
You can try all kinds of things that may or may not help you to live the life you want. But you need to see that there will be changes in your life you might not be ready for.
Expect changes in your social environment, your work, friends, family, and parents.
Every relationship is based on things you have in common, be it shared experiences, places you have been to, your job or profession, interests, and so on.
The problem is that many of these things you have in common are based on you displaying your conditioned self that is expected from you because it is the very foundation of your relation.
Letting go of the unfitting mask
Once you realize that all of this is not who you truly are you may wish to change that. All of a sudden, you no longer fit in the environment you used to because your innermost desires have no space in this environment.
The problem is that you might resist this change on a subconscious level without you even being consciously aware of it. Therefore you will eventually fail to be successful with your endeavor.
Your present self and your future successful self cannot be the same and if you don’t see yourself as being successful right now. Then you are not in alignment with how you are going to feel in the future.
On one hand you want that change, you even crave for it but on the other hand, you don’t want to lose what feels accustomed to you.
This dissonance causes an energetic imbalance which in turn makes you feel stressed, unhappy, and that the world is working against you.
When people start to realize that you have not been the same lately they begin to “worry about you”. The only thing they really worry about is to lose you as part of their own self-created identity.
Then you can either decide to go back to “normal” or to move on and follow through with what matters to you.
You need to let go of whatever is no longer serving you. This can be things in your environment like places, persons, or circumstances that no longer correspond to your new self.
But this could also be emotionally charged memories, the false identification with your thoughts and feelings, bad habits and so on.
Become a “successor”
In order to be successful, you need to become a successor of your old self. The new you is able to handle your new life because it has left behind the old comfort zone, memories, and emotions that kept you trapped in always the same circumstances over and over again.
Out of an infinite potential of possibilities you created the one that matched your past.
This way you recreated over and over again what has happened anytime but in the present moment, the only moment you will ever have.
Bringing your future desirable self into the now will align your mind, body, and environment to it as well. Most people fail to get out of their comfort zone because they scare to lose their identity. This identity, however, is just an illusion.
It is like a mask that you wear on the outside for others to see. On the inside, there is an emptiness we try to run away from all of our lives and seek to find it in the outer world.
In order to move on, you need to let go of everything that is no longer serving you.
You are addicted being you
I have written a couple of posts about how the mind works and how we keep identifying ourselves with it. The most recent one is about how to let go of the past and focuses on the mind-body interaction.
We are literally addicted to the way we think and feel. Every time we have a thought we create a corresponding reaction in the body which will make us feel a certain way.
This feeling, in turn, will intensify our thinking patterns. The more we feel and think a certain way, the more the body changes its structure to respond to these signals. Over time we need stronger signals to make us feel that way again.
We get so used to the same emotions and thoughts that they soon become part of our comfort zone. More so, we identify ourselves with these familiar patterns of thoughts and emotions and see them as the way we are.
This is what we call our personality.
With our subconscious mind running about 95% percent of the show we run on autopilot for most of the time without even realizing it.
Breaking free of these patterns is not an easy task but necessary if you truly want to have a change in your life.
Breaking free of being your “self”
The first step is observation. You need to get consciously aware of your unconsciousness. Observe yourself and see how your body and mind respond automatically to certain situations.
You suddenly think or feel a certain way just because this is what you normally do in similar situations. The moment you realize you are not your thoughts, your mind stops having control over you.
The second step is to let go of all the emotions, memories, and character traits that are no longer serving you. Once you realize that you have switched to an automated behavior you can transform this response.
Ask yourself whether you are reacting to your environment or if you are choosing the way you want to control. Who is really in charge and are your thoughts and emotions serving you to become more successful in life?
If not then cross this emotion out in your mind, literally imagine to draw a cross through it and through it into the quantum field. Get rid of it!
The past cannot influence the present moment unless you allow this to happen.
The third step is to become who you want to be. Now that you are getting more aware of who you thought you were, you can think about who you want to be in order to be in alignment with what you define as success in your life.
You actually have to feel the way you are going to feel after you have achieved what you desire.
This can be tricky though and you have to be careful what it is that you want. The problem with self-improvement is that it focuses mostly on improving the “self”, your mask.
The “self” is just the mask that we wear for others to see. Our true and authentic “self” lies below the mask. This is how we feel on the inside when we are alone with no one being around us.
So the best way to be truly successful in life is to close the gap between our authentic self and the mask we call our personality. Removing layer by layer of unconscious negative emotions and memories will eventually close the gap.
You start to change yourself to who you truly are.
Start your holistic life transformation and change your life today to become your greatest version. Let’s make this world a better place by stopping the chaos in the world caused by egoic thinking. Get aware of your own pathetic ego-driven lifestyle and become who you meant to be. Your individual efforts are essential for the healing of our planet and the society we live in.
Have a wonderful week my friend and thank you for reading. Please share this post if you like it.